Category: On Lifestyle

Putting Body Image Into Perspective

Body image, the topic of Episode 4: Your Body Image Inside Out,  is a bugbear for most of us throughout life but during the teen years, it is exacerbated by all the focus on looks, fitting in and so on.  Continuing our efforts to tune into girls, week four of our UIO social media campaign, kicked off with an attention getting inspirational quote about self-love from Personal Trainer Laura Miles, who has shared her own story to do with body image throughout the podcast.

Also, leading up to Christmas, we featured Laura, a hot tip from her and over the Christmas weekend and beyond we jumped into some important conversations to do with body image. We couldn’t resist promoting and sharing the Girl Scouts invaluable resource on body image, Yes Your Daughter Just Called Herself Fat. It not only points out that body image problems start early, as early as age 10, but also offers helpful tips on how to manage such issues.

The other conversation that we found refreshing had to do with sports. While girls sometimes shy away from sports because of worries about body image, girls in the Basketball Inspiration Programme found the court a place where they felt confident about body and self. How refreshing!

On Sunday, we featured a a former Girl Guide, who continues her journey in Guiding as a leader. Ines suffered from body image problems from an early age but at age 22, has learned not to worry about society standards, a path to a happier, healthier her.

If you missed anything, check it out @uiopodcast on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and join us in #tuningintogirls. Oh, and if you didn’t hear the podcast, it’s not too late to listen right here. Also, you can listen on iTunes, Stitcher and Tunein.  Stay tuned for next week’s round up on Hair.

A Closer Look at Your Skin Inside Out

Week three of our UIO social media campaign reached new heights with the interest in our inspirational quotes and hot tip from Episode 3: Your Skin Inside Out with entrepreneur Jenny Hawkins of The Skin Retreat in Fulham, London.

How refreshing to not only feature Jenny, who is ever so passionate about skincare, but also to put the spotlight on skincare. So many misnomers out there to do with what causes acne, blemishes and so on and even whether or not to use sunscreen and when to do so.

No wonder we jumped into a couple of conversations on related matters, one with Stylecraze.com on the importance of using sunscreen throughout the year, come rain or shine, and the other on the subject of acne featured in Forbes magazine. What does sugar have to do with it?

On Sunday, we featured a fantastic illustration from the talented Heather Moulson, who has contributed brilliant illustrations to UIO.  We call our girl Sadie and highlighted her fresh freckled face and how to care for it.

If you missed anything, check it out @uiopodcast on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and join us in #tuningintogirls.  Oh, and if you didn’t hear the podcast, it’s not too late to listen right here.  Also, you can listen on iTunes, Stitcher and Tunein.  Stay tuned for next week’s round up on Body Image.

 

 

A Review of Your Body Inside Out

Last week we continued our UIO social media campaign with inspirational quotes and a hot tip from Episode 2: Your Body Inside Out with personal trainer Judit Ressinka. How wonderful to not only feature Judit but to also put the spotlight on the importance of exercise and nutrition in a lifestyle changing way. Not to mention sleep, which Judit points out sharpens the brain cells and makes life more manageable.

UIO’s expert on body and nutrition

Also, we jumped into a couple of conversations on related matters, one with Women in Sport, on getting more teen girls in the UK interested in P.E., as featured in The Guardian.  The other chat we engaged in was from LiveStrong.com suggesting ways for teen girls to lose weight but let’s be clear—no gimmicks and yo yo dieting there or here, for that matter. It’s all about lifestyle.

On Sunday we featured budding chef Olivia, attracting loads of attention to this savvy teens approach to nutrition and well-being. What a week but that’s not all.

UIO’s budding chef

We received some illustrations from the talented author Heather Moulson, who sketches for fun and here we feature the first one. Such a fresh and modern approach, I couldn’t help asking Heather to help us continue tuning into girls. She said yes, so watch this space.

In the meantime, see our week in review @uiopodcast on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and join us in #tuningintogirls.  Oh and if you missed the podcast, it’s not to late to listen right here on our webpage or on iTunes, Stitcher, TuneIn, Soundcloud.  Just search UIO: You Inside Out podcast and tune in.

UIO Makes Noise With Ten Week Campaign

Lately, we’ve been making a little noise at UIO: You Inside Out, the new podcast for teen girls—announcing our new look, and our new social media pages on Facebook, Twitter and most recently Instagram.

But you ain’t heard nothing yet! Today we kick off our UIO Marketing Campaign to inform and interest you the teenage girl and get you listening to the podcast series and talking about it, too. From November 29 to mid February, we will be promoting UIO with inspirational quotes, hot tips, original pics, and some real honest chat.

So whether you’re looking for practical tips on hair and skin or want to learn more about body image or sex and sexuality, UIO is the place to be. Hence, it’s about to get noisy up in here.

It’s a ten-week celebration—join us at UIO Facebook, Twitter and Instagram to help raise the voice of teenage girls.

Meanwhile, listen to your favourite podcast on our webpage, iTunes, Soundcloud, Tunein and Stitcher.

UIO Launches Instagram Page

More excitement to cheer about at UIO: You Inside Out, the podcast for teenage girls.  Today, we launched our Instagram business page @uiopodcast. Follow us, like us, join us on Instagram.

This page follows the recent launch of our Facebook and Twitter pages.

With three dedicated social media pages, UIO aims to celebrate what it means to be a teenage girl today while advocating and campaigning on their behalf.

We’ll highlight great inspirational quotes and hot tips from our special guests—women featured in the podcasts: Cheryl Grace, Judit Ressinka, Jenny Hawkins, Laura Miles, Joy Miller, Jane and Molly Goldberg, Jenny Garrett, Rachel Gardener, Helen Lewis and Natalie Savvides–as well as creative photographs of teenage girls from both the US and UK.

Again join us, follow us, like our posts. Message us directly @uiopodcast or email UIO@sonjalewis.com. See you on Instagram.

Meanwhile, stay tuned for more UIO news.

What Would You Voluntarily Queue For?

Good question. My godson asked me this a few years ago as we made our way to Paris on the Eurostar. Designer sunglasses? Prada boots? To get into a hot nightclub? To see your favourite rockstar?  Ice cream? Entrance to your church’s Christmas concert. Difficult question for someone who has a low tolerance for queues but I have queued for the latter and the latter only of the aforementioned, contrary to popular belief, but I already had the ticket so not sure that counts.

Anyhow, today as I attempted to breeze into Harvey Nichols via my favourite door, a place where I never have to queue, not even during sale time, I was told it was an exit only due to the queue wrapping around the corner.

“What are these people queuing for,” I asked the very serious security guard. “Rihanna’s new make-up.”

Ok, I said, and sought a door that would allow me to pass without queueing. So it’s true, it is all the rage, I talked to myself as I entered the store.

I have seen it for myself, not really, since no amount of rubber necking got me near the beauty counter. But I did see loads of signs all around the store and then upon leaving Knightsbridge, I decided to join traffic to drive past the store, even if it did mean queuing. And as I sat in my car where the queue started,  I admired the diverse line-up–young, middle aged and mature women from a  medley of races and men, too. And then they admitted four young women into the store, and the others, a stream of them, waited patiently. Wow!

That’s when I remembered the question: What would you voluntarily queue for? Ah ha, I’ve got it. The answer is Chick fil a, the only fast food joint that I ever show my face at anymore and only when I am in Georgia. Almost everyone lunch time, I joined one of the city’s longest and fastest moving queues. And viola I have chick fil a nuggets, waffle fries and lemonade. Oh so worth it, as I eat every last bit of it before returning to my dad’s house! No evidence to speak of.

What does it mean or say about a woman who is gluten intolerant? Who knows? Still, it is a great question to ponder. What would you voluntarily queue for?

 

The Nature of Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone

New England, the place to be in the autumn, right! An explosion of colour from bursts of tangerine to shades of crimson, nature is at its most picturesque time of year. Can’t argue with that but what I can say is that New England got its spirited reputation honestly—inherited it from Old England, if you will.

Two weekends in a row I’ve found myself mesmerised by nature—just nature.

At a recent retreat, during an out-of-doors experience, I was first attracted to the polished, manicured lawns of an old country house turned hotel, but then noticed the naturally arranged trees in the distance and couldn’t get enough of walking amongst them. It was there that I discovered the benefits of leaving my comfort zones. More on that later but also I suddenly noticed the humanity of trees, how they lived cheek by jowl as we do, but manage to have more than enough space to grow. Somehow they didn’t crowd each other, try to get rid of each other. It was in diversity that they seemed to thrive rather than to stumble. Even suffering had not conquered them.

Upon reflection, the facilitator, let’s call her a tree whisperer of sorts, wondered if I had become a part of the landscape. As I sat to contemplate my experience, I saw what she meant and have had a new reverence for the out-of-doors since.

Surely, it was this eye opening experience, which led me to Wakehurst, Kew’s lush gardens and woodlands in Sussex. Actually, it was my husband who suggested we visit as a part of an early birthday present. All the same, it was an extraordinary gift, a wonderful experience.

Back to the issue of comfort zone, I wandered into the beautiful gardens and grounds and felt ever so comfortable with one tree in particular – a striking, sage beauty, though tinier that most around her – and wandered over to have a photograph with it only to find that the sunlight didn’t do the picture justice. It was then that I crossed the road and posed in front of a seemingly orchestrated landscape to discover in the distance behind me, nature untamed. A variety of colours and textures allured me (see above). 

There is something to say about stepping out of one’s comfort zone now and again. For me in this instance, it has opened my eyes to the goodness of nature, cultivated or uncultivated.  From its stunning beauty to its exhilarating scents, nature is an intrinsic part of life, offering healing properties and so on and invaluable lessons to live by.

When I was a girl, I entered and won a Georgia US statewide writing contest – What a Tree Means to Me. Trees are a symbol of life, I wrote all those years ago.

Fast-forward,  forty something years later, I know this simple truth is still relative and likely always will be. But as an adult, I now understand that we can learn a lot from trees, ranging from how to deal with suffering to healing. Wakehurst is a great example of that, having recovered from the storm of 1987. The woodland lost some 20,00 trees.

Of course, in such learning we have a responsibility, not only to plant seeds, even if only metaphorically, but also to nurture them, let them breathe and flourish. Hence the beautiful parks, gardens of both Old and New England as well as the untamed woodlands—a hassle-free way to step out of one’s comfort zone.

 

Family Matters Now More Than Ever

UIO: Your Family Inside Out, the ninth in the podcast series, is out now. Offering  straightforward conversation with Helen Lewis, founder of Literally PR, this episode takes a closer look at why setting boundaries, for example, can be the difference in a healthy and an unhealthy relationship.

The thing is: if there are no boundaries, people are bound to rock the boat consistently. And even with boundaries, we do tend to push them. Looking back to my own teenage years, I can attest to that. But knowing that they exist and trying to live up to them offers discipline that feeds into self-governance. Boundaries matter. 

Having margins, if you will, also feed into a sense of belonging to a family unit.

Other key topics we cover are effective communications, how to manage social media and much more. Listen on iTunes, Stitcher, Tunein, Soundcloud and right here sonjalewis.com.

The penultimate podcast in the series, UIO: Your Family Inside Out is a must listen for teenage girls and their guardians.

Tune in next week for UIO: Peer Pressure Inside Out – a wonderful conversation with Full Circle author Natalie Savvides.

 

Undressing Gender Stereotypes

Until the recent announcement that the retail giant has gotten rid of boys and girls labels in children’s clothing, John Lewis could do no wrong in my eyes. But with this news, I have to tell you – my eyes are stinging.

Make no mistake about it I vehemently dislike gender stereotypes. I do! And I would like to do something to eradicate them too but before I make a move, I’d like to think that I truly believe that my move is going to influence positive change rather than provoke confusion that could run well throughout adulthood.

If you ask me, this could be a problem started rather than one solved. Though the logic is that gender has more to do with social and cultural differences than it does biological differences, it is not clear-cut. It just isn’t.

Like it or lump it, girls and boys are different and have different needs and wear different clothing in different cultures, even if there are stereotypes that need to be dealt with.

Why not address the issue head on if it is a colour thing. For example, super hero shirts should come in all colours, pink and all, as fairy costumes can and should come in all styles and colours, too.

And if it is an unsuitable garment issue, why not take the opportunity for some equity here. Years ago when I ran the British 10K, I could not, try as a might, find a pair of shorts that suited me (I didn’t want hot pants, ok), though there was a great selection of mid-thigh shorts in the men’s department, and most recently my athletic niece had the same problem right here in the UK but also has it in the US, not only with shorts but also with trousers that are too skimpy and tight. Nothing wrong with that, if that is what you want but if you don’t, how about an option or two.

No wonder someone got the message that girls and boys ought to wear the same clothing–unisex clothing. Never mind trying to invent clothing that quell stereotypes. Anyhow, if you ask me, this removing gender labels from clothing will not resolve the gender issue stereotypes in clothing or in anything, for that matter.

And here is why: it is not children who have the problem. It is the people who make the clothes and who promote the stereotypes.

So let’s be clear, I don’t think this idea of sugar and spice and everything nice and snips and snails and puppy dog tails has a place in modern day society either, but neither does consolidating boys and girls clothing under one umbrella. It is not that straightforward. But what does make sense, in my opinion, are eye-opening clothes that meet the needs of whomever is wearing them, whenever they are doing so. Nothing stinging about that.

 

UIO Releases Special Episode on Sex

Yes, you read that right. But don’t expect anything out of the ordinary from this podcaster. Episode 8: On Sex and Sexuality is done in a similar style as the other podcasts and rightly so. A highly complex and sometimes contentious topic, it is one that can’t be ignored in any relationship.  And as teenagers begin dating, Rachel Gardner, founder of the Romance Academy, advocates that teens focus on building relationships and learning more about themselves before making pre-mature decisions about sex.

Though this might sound radical to some, it might be a welcome idea to others. In any case, the podcast looks to the emotional side of having the very deepest connection with another human and how if rushed into can often cause problems.

In addition, this episode looks at transgender issues and sexuality, too. Listen on iTunes, Stitcher, Tunein, Soundcloud and right here sonjalewis.com.

In other news, stay tuned for the two final UIO podcasts in this pilot series to be released in early September. That’s UIO: Your Family Inside Out and UIO: Peer Pressure Inside Out. In the meantime, have a good summer. No pressure!